What kind of counselling do I use?
I combine a number of counselling and psychology-based approaches to provide you with the tools to make real and lasting changes, these include:
- psycho-education so you can understand why you think, react and behave as you do
- practical approaches that will give you the tools to take care of your mental health and deal with life’s challenges
- a person-centred, trauma informed approach which offers empathy along with genuine care and kindness in a non-judgemental environment.
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy
ACT urges us to accept what is out of our personal control and commit to action that improves and enriches our lives. This approach develops skills that can help you deal more effectively with difficult thoughts and feelings and reduce the impact they have on you. You’ll be given space to clarify your values then work out how they can guide, inspire and motivate you. You can learn to focus your attention on what is important to you and how to engage fully in what you are doing.
A commitment I make to you to understand what it feels like to be you and understand how you see the world. I will share this with you with care and kindness.
Mindfulness encourages us to notice the difference between our thoughts and sense of self. Once you can distinguish the difference, you will have more agency over the here and now instead of feeling stuck in the past or worried about the future. Mindfulness helps us become more present and have more control over our thoughts, beliefs, values and ultimately, our actions. To help achieve this, mindfulness can provide you with simple, effective tools you can use anywhere, anytime to ease the effects of anxiety, fear, worry and stress.
Internal Family Systems
Internal Family Systems is a transformative, evidence-based model of psychotherapy which believes the mind is made up of multiples parts that each contain valuable qualities. It helps us understand that within these parts, our core self is present and knows how to heal and grow, allowing our parts to become integrated and whole. IFS is an empowering approach for understanding and harmonizing the mind and can help us become more compassionate and understanding of ourselves.
Many of us struggle to be kind to ourselves and there can be lots of reasons for this: guilt, shame, regret or the idea that ‘being tough on ourselves’ is the only way to achieve anything. By learning to practice self-kindness, we can let go of the authoritarian voice controlling our thoughts and replace it with one of compassion, patience and love. The difference it can make to your daily life can be remarkable.
The way we relate to others can be traced back to our childhood relationships and life experiences. As adults and even teenagers, we unconsciously react to life in ways we are not always aware of. Many of us use an array of ‘defences’ or behaviours to navigate through life. Some of these are helpful but some can harm our relationships. By understanding the origins of these ‘defences’ we can begin to make more conscious choices and have increased control over our lives.